Dear Mike,

August 20, 2010 1 Comment

Thanks for screwing up my love life for the longest time. You put me through so much, and it hurt me for so many years. Thanks for spreading rumors about us having sex, me cheating on you, and all the other 50 thousand things I always heard. Sadly enough, I did find out about all the girls you cheated on me with, and had sex with.

And then you pulled the whole “I never did that, I’ll kill myself if you leave me” deal. NEVER will I fall for that again. Thanks for scaring me though by overdosing on NyQuil in front of me. I definitely needed to watch that.

Thanks for finally getting out of my life, and being the screwed up person you truly are by yourself.

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Dear “Hobbit Feet” Mike,

August 19, 2010 No Comments

I use to wish I was blind so I didn’t have to see you. Now I could careless. You were my only technical one night stand. I wouldn’t have sex with you again for all the money in the world.

P.S. By the way, shave your toes. You have hobbit feet.

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Dear Dale,

August 10, 2010 2 Comments

After 30 yrs of marriage,I finally had the courage to leave you,after so many years of physical and mental abuse. I stayed longer than I should have,I wanted to get the kids grown and gone. Did I do it the right way? Probably not. Should you have beaten me like you did? Absolutely NOT!

We both had our faults I will admit that. And I left in a way that hurt everyone not just you but I had to leave. You wouldn’t have left me alone if I had stayed in town. I gave both kids the option to go with me, and they were both over the age of 18 and didn’t want to go.So telling everyone in town that I abandoned my kids, and took your money was wrong. I didn’t even get half of what I could because I just wanted away from you! I never knew what would set you off into a rage. The end results was me beaten and the kids scared to death. I will admit leaving the way I did was a coward’s way out, but at the time I feared for my life,so I did it that way.

Now we both are remarried and have grandchildren that don’t understand why you don’t speak to me and my husband. I’ll never tell them what you did to me. You have to live with that, but you being a butt just lets them see that it’s you doing it and not me. I’ve forgiven you for all you did to me and I am so happy now. I’m glad you are too. We married too young at 17 and 19. Life decisions shouldn’t be made at that age,but we did ,and now 38 yrs later I am at peace.

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Dear Shawn,

August 9, 2010 1 Comment

I am writing this letter to purge that last few pieces of you that I possibly can. Only so much can be done due to the tie that is our child but there is nothing more. No friendship, no love, nothing.

You managed to knock every happy piece of me into a hundred broken dreams in such a short time. You’re not all to blame because I saw the signs but foolishly I thought that I could change you. Instead I changed myself. I lived through all of the things I said I never would – physical and emotional abuse, cheating, depression.

I am thankful that I lived through it all and came through on the other side to find a real caring love instead of the force fed obsession that you offered. Don’t call me unless it deals with our son. We will never be friends because although I forgive the part you played in one of the darkest times of my life, I will never forget it.

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Dear Jack,

July 12, 2010 1 Comment

I no longer believe in love or the white picket fence. I no longer believe in till death do us part. I no longer believe in and in sickness and in health…for richer or for poorer. I no longer believe in these things because of you.

Nothing is what we have. No money. At times no food, but that has always been okay with me, because we would come out of this. We would be the lucky few who would look back and laugh at our struggles.

“Do you remember when we were so poor we couldn’t buy each other a card for our birthdays?” “Do you remember when you would buy me food from the dollar menu just so I could have something to eat?” We would laugh at these things because material things could never take the place of love.

“Do you remember when I became ill and you weren’t there?” “Do you?” I do. I remember thinking that everything would be better if you were there to take care of me…but you weren’t. No life doesn’t revolve around me. People get sick everyday and the world never stops. But at some point a little of your world should have stopped. I guess you aren’t wired that way.

I’m not laughing. To be honest I’m angry and I don’t care to speak to you anymore. It’s never been about what you don’t have or can’t afford. It’s always been about what you do have and refuse to give, which is you.

From now on when looking for love I’ll just check bank account balances to determine how much of my love I should invest. Really, isn’t that the human way?

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Dear Penn,

July 9, 2010 No Comments

Liar, liar, LIAR! Cheater, cheater, CHEATER! If I continue to be angry I let you win. You are not a winner, because you are a Loser, loser, LOSER! I now feel better and have nothing more to say to you. Ever, ever, EVER!

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Dear Steve,

July 8, 2010 No Comments

You took my trust in all men away it seemed. You tried to take everything from me. From the moments in life that should have been joyful to times I should have been allowed to grieve. You put a blind fold over my eyes and told me it wasn’t there. You told me so many lies and acted as though you didn’t care. I tried to justify your every move and I stood up to friends and family for you. You put me through so much heart ache but even worse you dragged our little girl along and played her as your pawn. I have gotten over you and we are way passed through. I have met and married my night in shinning armor who rescued me from your evil ways and has shown me that love can be true. Years have passed and I have forgiven you but I will never forget the way you were.

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Dear Kara,

July 7, 2010 No Comments

This letter won’t be a long trip down memory lane. It’s a final farewell. This is something that I should have done many weeks and months ago but couldn’t. You are not the woman that I want to share the rest of my life with. Our relationship from the beginning was going nowhere and neither of us could accept this until it became what it is today. A smoldering piece of nothing. If I continue to have contact with you I am afraid that closed wounds will be sliced open. In the words of Lauryn Hill – Loving you is like a battle and we both end up with scars. I’m tired of the battles. For now I need some distance between us. There are days that I wish we could have forced the pieces together and somehow made it work. I’m sorry that I could not live a lie but I am not sorry for telling you the truth.

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Dear Blake,

July 6, 2010 No Comments

For two years I trusted every lying word that came out of your mouth.  I gave you money whenever you asked for it. When you wrecked your car I bought you a new one. When your student loans became delinquent I made the payments. When you were sick and couldn’t afford to go to the doctor I paid for that too. All of your needs were taken care of  by me. Did you even wipe your own ass Blake?

You had everything and more that a girl could ask for because I loved you and believed that you loved me too. While most guys are allotted the pleasures of having a girlfriend who appreciates these things. I was not. You were never happy no matter what I did for you.

The  same girlfriends that you would take out to spend my money told me all about your plans to dump me once you had saved up enough of  my money in your bank account. The sad part is you just laughed when I asked if it were true. You said I was just “something to do.” At first I was hurt and angry, but now I think of it as a hard lesson learned. My error was trying to extend our one night stand. What I should have done was show you the door when it was over. These are the types of things that you appreciate.

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Dear Eric,

July 5, 2010 No Comments

You and I clearly have diverged and are on paths far apart now. Forgiveness didn’t come easy, but I’m there now. It’s the right thing to do. We are just on different trajectories, and that is just the way it is. I thank for you the years we did have together. I learned a lot in that time, and it wasn’t “time wasted.” Be well.

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